Sunday Reset

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Have you ever heard the saying Sunday Reset and often wonder what does one mean saying that. Sunday reset always refers to starting a new week with a fresh mindset so that you are preparing for the week ahead. But do you always need to wait till sunday for that to even occur. Why cant a reset be done anyday of the week. I do not feel you need set date and time in order to reset your life., day and week.

It is often the decisions we make and the habits that we create in order to make those changes. Now you probably wondering Drea what does all of this have to do with you. Well thank you for asking lol. For so long i always worried about the trends and what i see people doing and felt that i needed to do the same thing in order to gain some type of traction or influence but in a sea of so many i never really stood out.

It reminds when i was doing content creation on my creation page and would always want brand deals and etc but most of the time i majority just received free product. At first that was cool but as you know that tends to pile up and then you have unnecessary items taking up space in your home.

So i ended up stopping. Now dont get me wrong there was some amazing offers i had. I had brand deal for about two to three years with a glasses brand which saved me thousand of dollars in purchasing prescription glasses. I also had paid deals as well which was amazing but i realize that it was not for me. Let me clarify i could not do both content and running a small business.

Hence i had to choose and reset and the decision i made was my business. As my business showed a reflection of who i am and what i do which was important to me. For those that are new here i am heavily into fashion and almost went to have a career in it but chose differently.

Now i am at a crossroad in life where i feel like im burning out and you know burn out is not that great but when running a business especially on your own it is hard. Having a full time job that requires high demand can also be hard as well. I know your like what does this have to do with Sunday reset well you do not always have to wait for Sunday to make changes that you feel are necessary for your well being. It can happen whenever you are ready to make those changes.

The changes do not often have to be big steps, they can be small steps towards whatever your goal is . So let this be a reminder that starting over or resetting your self does not have to be done based on society standards but your own.

Deep Thoughts

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Do you ever let your thoughts get the best of you. I know I do especially late at night when I should be sleeping but in fact im up.

You may ask why well its simple I am overwhelmed and stressed 🙃 there i said it. When the weight of the world is on yojr shoulders and you are always the go to person , the problem solver, the fixer it gets exhausting.

As you wonder why when it is your time all you get is you will be alright or pray about it which I totally understand and do. However I am a human damn it and sometimes I like to scream and say that I am not ok. That i often wonder what my life will continue to be like. Am i a failure since im hardly even acknowledge for all that I do currently which often makes me upset.

Then you have people that like to tell how you should or how your life is suppose to be and sometimes you want to tell that person to shut up as well as they need to take a mirror and take a hard look at themselves. This year has been a struggle and I feel like that it is not letting up for me .

I work a 9 to 5 and run business. Lately i have been focusing alot on the business i always say that I am lazy focus when it comes to it. which is a plus but it also takes alot out of me as I m operating alone.

If your looking for amazing jewlery that is amazing quality and does not tarnish. Check out Embellishedbydrea on all social media platforms and also the website at http://www.embellishedbydrea.com.

Had to throw in that plug there lol.

Alright now back to my thoughts . I guess eventually i will figure it all out but until than keep going.

Ending Relationships

Yeah you see the title correctly.  Relationship break ups in my opinion are never easy at all. I think the hardest ones to process are friendship ones. Yup I dont care what anyone says friendship break up are the worse. One minute you chatting with a person everyday and next day it’s all like it never happened.

I always wonder was we ever friends to begin with like seriously or was it just a one sided friendship 🤔.  Cause baby let me tell you those are the worse.

Also was it a season 🤔 as well. I am learning at this grown age of 42 heading to chapter 43 that there is not much to explain when it comes to certain relationships no longer being.

I would sit and think like what did I do wrong and if I did something wrong how could I fix it but than I realized it was nothing to fix.  The missed calls the not shouting you out or checking in. No Happy birthdays nothing. 

Its ok right cause maybe that relationship served it’s purpose. That’s what im learning in this journey that certain things have an expiration date.

Am I still grieving of course but will it stop what im doing absolutely not as the show goes on..

Letter to myself

Girl you did it. You have made it through another year. This year was your toughest year that challenged you, left you feeling alone , emotionally drained, just feeling hopeless. You experience medical challenges but made it through.

You have had many disappointments from not getting those jobs you applied for , to being stabbed in the back by people who you thought had your best interest but reality they did not.

You go through serious martial issues while hitting your 12th year. Then towards the end of the year literally another health battle you are dealing with.

While going through all of this you continue to show up . You continue to be the mother you have to be for your son. You strengthen the bond in your marriage to work ok those difficulties you are having.

Besides the lows there were some major highs. You have went hard in your business and it has showed. You have literally had a successful sip n shop event celebrating your birthday that was successful 🙌. 

You continue to be in therapy and doing the work and it has showed. So I want to say I love you Drea you are an amazing , smart , beautiful ,awesome mother  amazing wife and all around great person.

2026 is going to be the year you thrive in your business, your going to have abundance of money and be financially stable . You are going to pay down your debt and rebuild. Yoi are going to be more intentional. You are nlt going to be discouraged and you will not give up as you got this. 

What’s your purpose

Have you ever sat down and thought about what is your purpose in life ? I know we have all thought this including myself . As sometimes life throws many curveballs your way where things are not working out how you would like them to be.

For me I have been through that battle often but it was not until I started going through some issues with work , personal, friends, family you name it. I was like why oh why especially at work but I realized there is a purpose to everything that happens.

I had to remember that God would never do anything or allow anything to happen without a reason. It has not been easy at all. I had to realize it was to make me stronger, wiser and to help others.

I was meeting with a client and the way they described me and how I motivate them encourage uplift support it was like ahh I get it. Being a blessing to those by showing them who you are inside and out.

My purpose is to show those who need,lead those who need, teach those who need and so much more.

I am still my own work in progress but being able to be that a better version of myself everyday is what matters most.

Owning a business

So if you are new here I own an accessory jewelry business Embellishedbydrea.  I have been in business for four years and started during the pandemic. What started as a simple side gig turned into a full on passion that I am working hard to grow the brand. 

With that comes alot of challenges one I work full time as well as being a full time m and wife so juggling the business was something hard as well.

Being consistent is also something I focus on with the business as It was not growing the way I needed it to as I was not promoting and marketing like I should.

So I started doing that and see the potential. We were featured in a gift guide for the holidays which was a plus. Did a few pop ups that were successfully.  Build stronger connections as well.

Now I want to start over for the new year and what that means spend time getting all new designs and different jewelry.  which is what I will spend the month of January doing as well as having a sale. So check out my business and spread the word.

Embellishedbydrea.wixsite.com/Embellishedbydrea

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Horrible

Yes you read the title right horrible as I have had this blog forever and refused to let go of the domain as one someone will buy it and two I don’t want to regret anything. So here we are another year i did not post a single update what I have been up to and etc.

2024 has been the most hardest, challenging and unpredictable year for me. I have been through some ish like seriously I’m surprised I kept going.

What keeps me going is that there are better days ahead something major will change things will shift for the better. It has too and it will.  Despite the lows we can celebrate a few things .

Celebrated a 11 years of marriage in September

Celebrated turning 41

Thinking if I wanted to have more kids but made my final decision on that one.

Started therapy

Thrived in my business

Looking into changing my career

That’s pretty much it for now. I feel like I am going to start using this as my online journal and share when I can.

I feel I have so much to share that could uplift and inspire others. To be continued

Life updates 2023


So where do I begin. When I started my blogging journey it was in the early 2000 where we all discussed fashion and posted links to our outfits. Those were the easier times but now we’re with like to know it and all other social media platforms that add on more and more. I’m like If one more app is created I’m going to lose my mind lol.

Social media has a way to make you feel like you have to do the most. It is almost like a popularity contest or a click. Whoever the coolest that is who I’m going to hang out with and to me that is lame. Your number of followers should not determine a friendship but I’ll leave that for another day and post lol.

I have been back and forth on what I was going to do with my WordPress blog since I own my name and etc. I was going to get rid of it but decided against it.

So what did I decide to. I’m going to keep it but post about my journey on where I am and what I have been up to or next steps for me.

The reason I started my journey was to inspire people, motivate and encourage. So let’s welcome back fashionicondrea where I talk about all things, motherhood, work life balance, self care, mental health and of course fashion.

So sit back , support and enjoy this journey I will take you through.

No Spend February

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Hi Fashionistas,

It is March 1 and we are in a new month. However before we talk about this new month. If you have been following me on Instagram you would have heard me talking about i decided to do a no spend February so i can relax and save some money as i was going overboard at the time.

As you know i am a lifestyle blogger and a fashion stylish so sometimes i like to update my wardrobe frequently and what happens is i have way too much and then i have to purge my closet. So i decided i was not doing that and was going to wear what i have pay more on my bills and keep it moving.

I had an accountability partner through this process which made it better as she helped me alot especially when i wanted to give up. You wonder why i would give up as it is hard. I have always Said i would do a no spend month and would throw in the towel this time i was determined.

I will not lie when i tell you the first two weeks were hard but after that i was good. Actually i was unbothered. I realize what i did not need at all and that i utilize my closet more. I was also able to focus on my business that i have started at this time (online styling consultant and custom clothing and accessory design specialists ). I will talk more about this in another post.

Through this experience i learned about budgeting more and why i was shopping the way i was which i will explain soon. This process has been amazing that moving forward i know i may be continuing for a few more months but having limits which will include a shopping budget and more.

If your interested in learning more definitely comment as i would love to hear how you budget or if you done a no spend month.